Attachment Style

Last updated Jun 8, 2023

Thursday, June 8th 2023
4:42 am

UhM, so I thought I was a secure attachment style, but maybe I am an avoidant attachment style?
Not too sure, am doing some research about it atm, will update here.

10 Signs You Might Have An Avoidant Attachment Style

• You take radical responsibility for your life
• You often feel intense pressure in intimate relationships
• You feel most comfortable making major life decisions alone
• You’d rather meet practical needs rather than emotional ones
• You can outsource your ‘wants’ but not your needs
• When your feelings are hurt, you tend to retreat to process, rather than reach out to repair uHM, very guilty of this I notice myself heading home almost immediately in a day goes badly, to a point where me going home suddenly is normal to my friends I just need alone time when I feel really bad about something, sad, angry, upset, etc.
• You struggle to find adequately independent partners
• You are highly protective over your time and space
• You rarely feel emotionally vulnerable I only mostly, feel amotonally vulnerable when I’m with myself, so yea
• You show love by not putting your needs on others uHM, this is so true, even between me and my family and friends I truly think, not burdening someone with your problems is an act of love, it’s true tho Why would I make someone elese worry about my problems, and I shouldn’t have to worry about their problems Now that I’m writing this down, this sounds selfish to me, but idk

10 Signs You May Have A Secure Attachment Style

• You are comfortable asking for help uHM, nope
• You don’t take things personally yea i tend to flee when people are stressed thus why in extreme uni conditions, i stay at home, to avoid the stressed people
  • You conciously adapt your approach to different relationships i do notice, i don’t like people who tend to show strong emotions my brain immediately judges them as unable to handle themselves
• You prefer to approach conflict calmly and directly
• You are comfortable in and out of relationships
• You feel empathy without getting overwhelmed by it lately, i feel less empathetic, idk why
• You can set personal and collaborative goals easily
• You’re comfortable depending/relying on loved ones yea no, i think i’m more comfortable not depending on anyone(counter-dependance)
• Conflict feels uncomfortable but tolerable
• You describe other people in a balanced way

oke, so I am definitely not secure rn, something to work on

10 Signs You May Have An Anxious Attachment Style

• Constantly trying to feel ‘Good Enough’ for love
• You are an ‘Intimacy Junkie’
• Feeling more committed (or like you ’love more’) thank your partners
• You tend to suppress your needs in order to not be abandoned
• Your conversations tend to rotate around relationships
• You tend to ‘overthink’ in a relationship
• When you are single you sustain yourself on fantasies
• You struggle to set and keep boundaries
• You tend to put your partners on pedestals
• You are preoccupied by what others think of you